tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post5667083377067346292..comments2024-03-16T16:31:16.652-07:00Comments on Finding Sunday: Thoughts on Infertility and AdoptionMindy Swenson Kinnierhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11511083744644878700noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-21330301511222845352014-10-26T13:26:36.775-07:002014-10-26T13:26:36.775-07:00I can relate to this so much! As we've started...I can relate to this so much! As we've started talking about our second child, I've felt so torn. I love, love, love adoption and know that we want to adopt again. I just have such a hard time giving up the idea of ever being pregnant. I had my heart set on our second child coming to us that way, but I just don't know if that's going to happen anymore. I have been reminding myself lately that God blew me away with how incredible Silas is, so I should expect nothing less with our second child, regardless of how he/she comes to us. Prayers for you as you start the process to bring home your second little one! Keep me posted on your progress :)Mindy Swenson Kinnierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11511083744644878700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-8373638310514337052014-10-23T13:40:41.026-07:002014-10-23T13:40:41.026-07:00My husband and I are beginning to consider adoptin...My husband and I are beginning to consider adopting our second child. I came across your blog as I google searched adoption profiles hoping to find some fresh ideas. I clicked on the link to your blog, probably mostly because we share the same first name, but as I read through more of your adoption posts, we share SO much more in common. We too struggle with infertility and may continue that struggle for many years. Our son, who is adopted, is 20 months old and we LOVE adoption, yet it has taken me all 20 months to be genuinely excited with the fact that our next child will likely be adopted as well. But as you said, "I wouldn't trade [Theodore] for all the fertility in the world." Your words resonated so much with so many of the thoughts and feelings I've had over the last few years. The timing was perfect for me to read you Christ-centered, yet honest thoughts and feelings. Thank you. <br />melindakay05@sbcglobal.netMelinda Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-10490416729995110312014-03-17T18:17:12.821-07:002014-03-17T18:17:12.821-07:00i've been perusing your blog! found it via ca...i've been perusing your blog! found it via casey's and your posts are just breaths of fresh air... been married 14 years and dealing with "a body that doesn't work" for 8... you penned that well... hope for a barren womb just is... kinda a blessing and a curse of sorts... praying for your hope! Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16505893973885343135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-56459370313064602622014-01-30T20:54:16.682-08:002014-01-30T20:54:16.682-08:00Thanks Jill!!!Thanks Jill!!!Mindy Swenson Kinnierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11511083744644878700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-76764110403919879002014-01-30T20:54:06.327-08:002014-01-30T20:54:06.327-08:00Hey! Thanks for commenting and sharing a bit of yo...Hey! Thanks for commenting and sharing a bit of your story! I just started following you back on Instagram. I can't wait to see the baby God has for you guys! It's such an exciting time! Mindy Swenson Kinnierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11511083744644878700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-47361508245329939462014-01-29T21:11:18.275-08:002014-01-29T21:11:18.275-08:00Beautifully said. I just found you on Instagram an...Beautifully said. I just found you on Instagram and I've been reading your posts starting with when you were matched! My husband and I are in the middle of fundraising/waiting on our baby through adoption. I'm so thrilled to follow your journey through parenthood as well as your desire to still have biological children. {I am right here with you.} Much love! :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-6446832121173115902014-01-29T17:12:13.664-08:002014-01-29T17:12:13.664-08:00Those pictures are just precious! Love, Cousin Ji...Those pictures are just precious! Love, Cousin Jill<br />Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09725320815851068024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-32020953574261063732014-01-28T11:02:09.839-08:002014-01-28T11:02:09.839-08:00You are the best Ashly. Just this comment is so be...You are the best Ashly. Just this comment is so beautifully written, and I totally relate to wanting to write my own story. Thanks for sharing this.Mindy Swenson Kinnierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11511083744644878700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-62506746931471892392014-01-28T10:52:43.769-08:002014-01-28T10:52:43.769-08:00Jeanne-Thanks so much for sharing your story! I wi...Jeanne-Thanks so much for sharing your story! I will be praying for you guys and that this final try is a success for you. I totally get being scared. I'm terrified of starting to start trying again, mostly because of the emotional toll that it takes on me.Mindy Swenson Kinnierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11511083744644878700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-79924223542640213662014-01-28T10:48:11.941-08:002014-01-28T10:48:11.941-08:00I totally agree Dawn. I never want Silas to feel ...I totally agree Dawn. I never want Silas to feel like he is not enough. He is more than enough. It really has nothing to do with needing or wanting different children. It's just about feeling like an outsider....but you know that all too well (and so does Jesus). Thanks for being such an encouragement to me through this whole process. You guys are awesome!Mindy Swenson Kinnierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11511083744644878700noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-39602834843236543752014-01-28T08:46:39.275-08:002014-01-28T08:46:39.275-08:00You are beautiful, honest, and vulnerable. The tra...You are beautiful, honest, and vulnerable. The transparency you share is what we have been called to because it allows others who have been silent to be set free, to have someone who is able to say, "me too." You also remind others about the need to be aware of the things we say so flippantly. I know we are in completely different seasons, but I have been trying to rest in the beauty of God writing my story. As much as I would like to take the pen from His hand, I can't or even ask that He take someone else's chapter and add it to my story. It's hard to be present with the story we have been given some days. Luckily, His kindness meets us in those dark days. Your little family is so loved, and I will continue to pray for your continued journey. But again, thank you for being you...bravely.ashlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02701749975509523528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-66958437205516716042014-01-28T04:40:14.221-08:002014-01-28T04:40:14.221-08:00Oh Mindy how right you are! We did treatments for ...Oh Mindy how right you are! We did treatments for 6 years to have my now 6 year old. When he was born the pain and frustration melted away. Or so I thought until about 2 years later when we tried for a sibling. Sitting in the doc office for cycle 1 of retry was like I had never left. The pain and all of the emotions came back just as hard as before. Those cycles didn't work and this year is our final try, and truth be told I'm scared. I know the emotions that will be coming back and it already sucks!!! XoxoJeannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12651263361626842089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-10351507373959873682014-01-28T03:24:47.060-08:002014-01-28T03:24:47.060-08:00Right there with you! The sting of infertility les...Right there with you! The sting of infertility lessens with time, but never fully goes away! BumbersBumblingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15804403640550027122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-11790650502303573312014-01-27T23:03:31.250-08:002014-01-27T23:03:31.250-08:00I could not agree more, Mindy, even with the compl...I could not agree more, Mindy, even with the complete ANGEL God has given us in Isabella Hope. Adoption does not "fix infertility." But we are responsible to deal with our grief so that it does not negatively impact the blessings/children God HAS given us. Otherwise...they may be left feeling as though they are not enough. I appreciate you taking responsibility for your own grief and not expecting the Gift of Silas to "fix" it. I hear you...and my heart feels many of the same emotions. And yes, it does continue to come up for me at the most random times. Yet, our God is faithful and He can handle ALL of our emotions. Love you, Friend. Thank you for sharing your heart because you usually minister to mine in some way. OXDawn Montgomeryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17840582973609462006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5537420320725314260.post-32600085350795022342014-01-27T21:28:06.545-08:002014-01-27T21:28:06.545-08:00I love your honesty Mindy. I love seeing you and N...I love your honesty Mindy. I love seeing you and Nick with Silas and knowing what a gift he is to you both. He is most definitely your own child. You and Nick were God's plan for Silas all along. xoAndreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17262659751582397411noreply@blogger.com